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You are not your thoughts

Herewith a few thoughts and ideas about a helpful ‘thinking skill’ to put into practice if we’re thinking our way into trouble more often than is good for us: changing our relationship with our thoughts.…

Emotional reasoning

I’d like to explore here what we mean by ‘emotional reasoning’, and to share some suggestions and ideas on how to do something about it if you recognise it in yourself or others, and your…

Challenging Thinking Errors

I’d like to share a few thoughts about ‘Thinking errors/Faulty thinking’ – and a copy of the accompanying questionnaire if you’d find it helpful – as a few people got in touch about it after…

Dealing with unhelpful thoughts

A coaching client of mine has started using this form as she’s having negative/unhelpful thoughts more often than she’d like, and it affects her mood, so she’s resolved to come up with a more helpful…

Our emotions, and being who we want to be

A client of mine told me recently that she was often negative in her thinking, and that she wanted to be a more positive person, have more enthusiasm and confidence, and be more motivated in…

Unhooking – ‘defusing’ – from our thoughts

The four areas are of course linked, and one area can lead to another – if we think negatively for example, we can feel overly irritable and gloomy, become tired physically, and behave in a…

“Nature abhors a vacuum”

This proposition, attributed to Aristotle, expresses the idea that unfilled spaces go against the laws of nature and physics and that every space needs to be filled with something. I’m applying it here in the…

Developing and maintaining resilience during uncertain times

I’d like to share a few tips and techniques to encourage our resilience during uncertain times/when things are difficult 🎯Be kind to yourself 🎯Remember that the situation is temporary and will pass 🎯Remind yourself that…

Time travelling anyone?

I’d like to share a few thoughts on mental ‘time travelling’: to the past and/or to the future, and what we might be able to do about it if we find ourselves:👎 Dwelling/ruminating on the…