Being involved in training and development, we’ve seen more requests for training and coaching in ‘resilience skills’, rather than ‘stress management’ over recent times. Here the emphasis is more therefore on moving towards, rather than moving away from, which is preferable insofaras it’s preventative and proactive and more positive and forward-looking.
Firstly, a couple of definitions of resilience:
What we need to achieve therefore is a state where we’re not bent out of shape by events, thoughts, others etc., and when unhelpful or unpleasant things happen to us, we’re in a position to deal with them and with the aftermath (e.g. the feelings, thoughts, emotions that ensue). It’s worth acknowledging that it may not be possible, or even desirable – because we don’t want to - to return to our original shape, and be exactly the same person as we were previously, for example if we’ve suffered the bereavement of a loved one. How could we be the same person, when so much has changed? And don’t we need to come back somewhat different, to adapt to and survive in the new environment we find ourself in?
What we’re talking about here is how to develop and maintain a core state of psychological wellbeing so that we are best equipped to deal with, respond well to and learn from our experiences as above, so that we can perform to our best in the good times and not-so-good times at home/at work.
The most useful models of resilience we’ve come across are from psychologist Carol Ryff and wellbeing experts Robertson Cooper. Carol Ryff’s model includes six factors that impact on resilience and feed into psychological wellbeing: Personal Growth; Self-Acceptance; Purpose in Life; Autonomy; Positive Relationships and Environmental Mastery.
We therefore need to maintain and if needs be develop these areas, and involve ourselves in those attitudes, activities and behaviours that promote these resilience factors, and ensure as far as we can that we don’t involve ourselves in attitudes, activities and behaviours that detract from these helpful components of resilience.
The second model, from Robertson Cooper, includes
How can we do more of the things that contribute to each of these elements, and less of the things that inhibit them? Robertson Cooper have come up with an ‘i-resilience tool’ that examines this very area: a free questionnaire to complete that produces a personal report with guidance on if and how you can promote your resilience.
Here at Stress Management Plus we’ve put together a Resilience Planning Programme, the training element of which includes examples of those activities, attitudes and behaviours that from our experience and understanding can help to boost our resilience: here's a taster relating to 'Confidence'. Other examples of these behaviours and activities include being more assertive; developing meaning and purpose; setting goals; being more open to new ideas and trusting others. Click on the following link for details of the classroom training element of the programme.
For more details on the above, or if you'd like to discuss how we can support you or your organisation - we're based in Reading in Berkshire but cover the whole of the UK - drop us a line, or call 0118 3283246.